After a great spell of good vibes, I am cranky again.

Things that suck:

  • People disrespecting my boundaries, and not realizing that I’ve been very accomodating letting them cross them on numerous occasions.
  • People cursing the house I live in now, because of someone who used to live in it.
  • People who are inconsiderate to the point where they can’t see beyond their own noses.
  • Not being able to name individuals, for the simple fact that it would have negative consequences. But I’d love to. I would LOVE TO LIST SOMEONE’S NAME HERE!
  • The fact that I’m forgiving and will eventually gloss this over.
  • The fact that if I’ve forgiven enough, and been mistreated again, I eventually cut the person out of my life entirely. Exceptions have been rare.
  • Posted: March 16th, 2005
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    Comment from Tiffany - 17 Mar ’05 at 8:32 am

    Just a thought–but you let people ruin things for you–you let a girl ruin ani–someone else ruined Bertha and live dead–There has to be something that you can do to stop everyone from ruining things for you–right?? I mean, i sure understand the annoyance, but cant you distance yourself from the situation or the emotion long enough to realize it doesnt matter–it doesnt change anything in the end??
    Hmmmm–not sure where i am going with this–but you are in control of you own self and letting other people have control of that self is not good–and you end up ranting online……

    Comment from Roman Edirisinghe - 17 Mar ’05 at 10:55 am

    I don’t disagree with you.

    At the time I was with Lynn, I do remember telling her that Ani was being overplayed. But that had little impact. She kept playing it. But it didn’t ruin listening to Ani DiFranco completely – it just means I have to be in the right mood to hear it, and I stay away from the songs she liked.

    My former roommate overplaying live Grateful Dead? Well, it didn’t ruin the Dead for me either. I love studio Dead, and again, I have to be in the right mood to listen to live Dead.

    But it comes to this, as far as music is concerned… There is so much music out there. Why should I dwell on what I can’t or won’t listen to? Wouldn’t the clear solution be to listen to as much different music as possible?

    Hey, we all get angry and irritated. True, it’s giving power over our emotions to someone else, but I’d like so meet one person who doesn’t do it.

    Comment from Tiffany - 17 Mar ’05 at 11:04 am

    Well, i think i distracted you from my point by throwing in the musical examples–All i am saying is that you are letting others have more control over your likes and dislikes and over your emotions than you have over them. And even if the whole world acts this way–it doesnt mean it is right and it certainly doesnt mean it is healthy. Dont get so stuck on my words and simply think about the concept i am presenting–take control of yourself–and take that control BACK from those that have it.
    Or you can continue to be cranky–which ever you prefer. My Scorpio experience tells me that you would most likely rather dwell in the pain and to find excuses why everyone elses ideas or thoughts are irrelivant—prove me wrong 🙂
    Now, on to music–why should you let a memory or whatever take from you something that you love????? Wouldnt the clear solution be to get over whatever your hangups are and make the descisions for yourself?? What did john and yoko profess–Bagism??? Let go of your baggage man it is weighing you down! 🙂
    Thanks for letting me have this space hehe

    Comment from Ann - 17 Mar ’05 at 11:03 pm

    Hi Roman:

    Y.K. Curses are inventions of the Devil and designed to take your mind off of God.

    Just my two cents.

    Set your standards and space!

    a friend from MD

    Comment from Heidi - 19 Mar ’05 at 4:05 pm

    My two cents is this (though I realize this is very after-the-fact now):

    If you’re cranky, be cranky. If someone upsets you, I think it’s reasonable to be upset, and if someone disrespects your boundries with full knowledge of what your boundires are, then blame that person, not yourself for letting someone upset you. I think sometimes people can get carried away with this emotional control stuff.

    Comment from Linda - 24 May ’05 at 2:00 pm

    Yeah, I’m with Heidi on this. Someone I cared about just went over one of my boundaries for the last time. He wasn’t ignorant of what my boundaries are and this time he went waaaaaaaaaaaay over the line. I got upset – he had the gall to say “you’re making too big a deal”, “I’m not responsible or making you upset”, “you’re giving me too much power”…blah, blah, blah. Refused to apologize saying, “I don’t have to explain or justify myself to you.” I tried to ask him some questions, he refused to answer and then hung up. So I ripped him a new one (to his vm unfortunately) and dumped him via text msg. Once is forgivable (they may not know), twice could be a mistake, but a third time? That’s a message. They don’t respect you and could care less about your feelings.